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Pride Community Services Organization publications LGBTQ community--Kentucky LGBTQ culture LGBTQ newspapers Gay men Lesbians Bisexual people Transgender people Sexual minorities Gender identity Drag culture LinQ magazine, October 2013 text LinQ magazine, October 2013 2013 2019 true xt72z31nk22r section xt72z31nk22r Connecting the Bluegrass LGBT community October 2013 Vol. 35 No. 10 f3? . "' ‘»' _ a _ "1': ' 5 an . i‘ (an 2i; \;.‘...7 I l . ~ f’a /-..a"".. , -';. ’ " g $.52" Ft? 5% 4' ind" , {a " ~.,\ ,. '.\‘, . ‘. ,9? “3"‘.‘ 7;?- . ~ ’ ‘ ' " ' r" "t ‘ \ n )5 ' gr: ' fix ' 233': 3 «v , i e. . "t 1' "V“ H . . 'h 1% .TR -‘ ; as; ea " 7;". i (if: , \. ~ . .. 3/ J 5 “M, j. J . {\\ goggle. ‘. ' ,e m _‘ ii 3 .l . 3' A ' V ' 1’9": / t 4') .=' '3‘" 2' 1‘"! .,"" - ‘ 'L.»J ",1. z 1 .7 . . , 1% l“? \» r' v 2 . .us 7 . W“ by," I ‘41. -' 3' .v ‘ A ‘ 23;“ . . s . \ -. i "-- “’3‘ 1 'V" ‘- v, A ”if; *‘ ' I} B I, £9 ‘1 J’.’ ' ‘ I l: E t; ', i V'Z: , l “t (L: "k lg? _ J'n.‘ V. .. a? 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' Don Lowe, At Large PHOTOGRAPHY Brian Hawkins empower the communty about Cynthia Lyons, At Large GLBTQQIA issues. _ CALENDAR Karen Taylor Cmdy Sommer, At Large GLSO Pride Center Trilby Trent, GSA Advisor COPY EDITORS Jane Minder, 389 Waller Avenue, Suite 100 GLSO STAFF Kay Gardner, and Burley Thomas Lexington, KY 40504 Chad Hundley, Office Manager CIRCULATION Kay Garner 859.253.3233 www.glso.org LETTERS TO THE EDITOR Office hours are Mon-Fri 1-5 pm. Submit letters to the editor by LinQ is published monthly by . . GLSO EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE emaihng editor@glso.org. Letters and for the Lexington Gay and _ . . . to the editor published in Lan Lesbian Services Organization Paul Brown, President ’ may be edited for length. members and community. The Ginger Moore-Minder, Vice Lexington Gay and Lesbian President Like us on Facebook at i Services Organization envisions Karen Taylor, Secretary LinQbyGLSO l a community that accepts and Tommy Brodbeck, Treasurer 1 Follow us on Twitter @ ‘ celebrates each individual. LinQBluegrass Scan to join our mailing list. El 1"? El GAY AND LESBIAN SERVICES ORGANIZATION y 1:! It. :I 1- fl .- ' :- 1: ' . LinQ 3 Th ’ Wh ’ 2 at s at m D I T alki n’ Ab o t By Helena Handbasket When we read about Susie selling her sea shells at the seashore, do we really believe that all Susie is selling are shells? on't you just hate it the road and the next thing it seem like I have already And if Peter Piper.... well, D when you are right she knew she was struggling wondered that before? nevermind. in the middle of to get out of her Smart Car as And, when we ask how And lastly, why on God's doing a certain task and she watched it disappear in a much wood could a wood— green earth are you still then completely forget what sinkhole. Wouldn't that just chuck chuck if a wood- reading this nonsense in the hell you were doing? I suck? chuck could chuck wood, my article this month. I know I do. Sometimes life Why is it that sometimes do we really want to know? mean really... don't you have gets so busy that you have a doctor will tell you that I mean, isn't life better just anything better to do with too many different things something is bad for you but knowing that the wood is your time? (made ya laugh!) on your mind at once. Too after another study is done, being chucked at the pace Talk to ya'll next month... many irons in the fire. Did they decide that you won't that makes the woodchuck love ya! you ever wonder where that live long if you don't eat more happy? Can't we just be Send comments and saying came from? Anyway, of what they just told you last happy with that? Must we suggestions to: the more I try to get done year was killing you? always analyze every wood- lately, the less that I actually And have you ever chuck we come into contact HelenahandbasketKY@gmail.com get finished, it seems. wondered who the first with? editor@glso.org It also seems like the older person was that decided And, when we read about Anthony@tenmast.com I get, the faster the world to use a drill in a person's Susie selling her sea shells is moving. Do you ever mouth to fix a tooth that was at the seashore, do we really wonder if the world actually rotten? Really? Power tools believe that all Susie is selling does spin faster than it used in my mouth... are shells? I mean, really? 7 " to? Wonder why it seems Which makes me start to And, if we know that fuzzy like we hear about sink— wonder, why do they call sex wuzzy was a bear and that ‘ holes so much more often toys power tools? Are there fuzzy wuzzy had no hair, ‘S. than we used to? I just saw any sex toys actually made by then isn't it really just kind — 5%» ~ on the news where a woman Black and Decker or Ryobi? of obvious that fuzzy wuzzy git; 4» . in Florida thought she was Where did the term Deja wasn't really fuzzy? Why 2‘“ r f y ‘ , ' driving through a puddle in Vu come from and why does must we ask the question? I“? V ' a v 1‘1. " ”HQ o (”3 :3 . m er la 3 (I) Z By I. D. Vaughn The Court has many events planned for the month of October all of which raise money for local LGBT charities. reetings from the and supportive crowd, Kentucky Court Members Imperial Court of Miss Larica Andrews was were recognized and given Then 0” Kentucky. Reign crowned Closet Queen 2013. awards during the three- Wednesday, 32 continued its strong The Imperial Court would day event in our nation’s October 16th, fundraising last month, like to thank each of the capital. The Imperial Court Her Imperial holding several events. contestants for helping the of Kentucky was also repre- Majesty, Imp erlal On September 4, the Iulie court with an amazing fund— sented by court members at Crown P rmcess Vaughn Memorial Closet raising concept. Montana’s Coronation the 32 Christina - _ Puse, will host Ball was held at pulse night On September 11, same weekend. h 1 life. The evening featured . Looking forward, October er annua the Court held Its h “D' four contestants, all new drag . is a full and busy month for 5 0W was annual Divas of D d » queens, who all competed the Court as well. Coming up of a eca e Hazzard Show at t C - and performed like “old . . on October 9th at 9:30 pm at a rossmgs , Crossmgs. This L - t 1.930 pro’s.’ . . Crossings Lexington will be exmg 0” a - hillbilly/country , The four contestants were . . “Duct Tape Diva’s’, brought pm. P ‘ Dixon Pi er Peters Inspired event to ou b Stratos here The This show has the age ’ p ’ featured a Hillbilly y y p ' Larica Andrews, and Illa Laya. evening will see how creative entertainers imperson- buflet and a show. The contestants first came drag queens can be with the ating their favorite diva to the stage and presented The following weekend, simple, yet functional duct in their performances. themselves in their natural Hi5 MOS'E Imperial Majesty tape. There will also be door ThefollowingWednesday, gender. Then, they had an Emperor 32 Patrick Thompson prizes andasilent auction. on October 23rd, the hour to transform themselves and several court members The Monarchs and court Imperial Sovereign Queen into the drag queen they made an out Of town trip members will represent City Court of the Buckeye wanted to present themselves to Washington D~C-’S Kentucky at Out of Empire (the Court of as. Finally, they came out and Coronation on September Town Coronations in Cincinnati) will come performed a Talent number. 14- This was the first Ollt 0f Cincinnati, Toronto, and down for a “Cincinnati After all of the contest- Town coronation Walk for Chicago throughout the Invasion Show” at ants performed to a raucous Emperor Patrick and several month as well. Crossings Lexington. This LinQ shovlv Wlll ceiebrate the DarknessHalloweenpageantat Cover phOtOSfrom t0p lefi to new y crowne monarc 5 Pulse Nightlife on Wednesday, , of Cincinnati, Emperor 22 October 30th. Contestants battom right Keith Roberts and Empress will compete in Sp 0 okta cular Iames “SEB” Herndon - Source unknown, Ieff Iones provided 22 Freeda Bangkok. 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A) ’ V. / 3" .- .xg kiwi“ F " {FCI?19 /§ ‘/ Q‘)? iii/ii i may a xx» ‘ ; Net proceeds to benefit the charities of the imperial Court of Kentucky LinQ > D O "U E O . ee or oster an z '11 O 0) ° P] m Adoptive Parents Soars a 2 C) By Andrew Holt As of July 7, 2013, there are over 7,200 children in foster care throughout the state of Kentucky. Fayette County alone needs over 200 additional foster homes to meet the current need based on the number of children in foster care. ith the growing the current need based on LGBT discussion group on online at http://chfskygov/ n u m b e r the number 0f children in October16th at 7:00pmand dcbs/dpp/outofhomecare. of abused, foster care. These children the Senior Bistro Potluck htm. neglected and dependent in our community need on October 18th at 7:00 pm. r children entering the foster foster parents to care for These representatives will 61' . care system, the Cabinet for them, esspecially medically also be available after each LGBT lscusszon _ Health and Family Services fragile children, sibling group. If you are unable to October 16 6‘ 18 at is struggling to place these groups, and teenagers. In attend and would like more 7PM children in foster homes. addition to needing more information please contact C III 800 232 Many foster homes are at foster homes, we have chil- 1-800-232-KIDS or the KIDaS 0 859 245 r _. .— maximum capacity or filled dren waiting to be adopted Fayette County Foster Care 5488 with special needs children. by their forever family. office at 859-245-5488. You In many cases children are There are currently 257 can also visit our website being placed hours away kids in the Special Needs from their homes and Adoption Program (SNAP). families because we don’t You can View profiles of have foster homes to care some of these children on for them. Currently we have the SNAP website at https:// an above average number prd.chfs.ky.gov/SNAP/ of children in out—of—home indexaspx care and the state is in crisis Eligible Kentucky Foster mode trying to find homes Parents must be at least 21 to care for these children. years old, in good phys- As of July 7, 2013,there are ical and mental health, Become a Foster OI' Adoptive Parent over 7,200 children in foster and be financially stable. (859)245-5488 care throughout the state of To gain further informa- Kentucky. Fayette County tion, representatives from Kmufififi‘}. alone needs over 200 addi- Fayette County Foster Care WWW“g tional foster homes to meet will be speaking at the LinQ L . t ’ By Jeffery A. Jones, PhD t I . , .3... 3 "i :2; .. . '0. -. j. st most notable drag . ‘h. f 'l -- dperformance was at the ‘5' ’ ' . . 7 a"! "3 ' ' i ,. ,7. = ., . :2 W00 land Auditorium where “i , g5 : .. he was lowered from the 1m . ceiling in a basket dressed in “'3. f . -’__.: “'1'“ ' ' r: (( . . . )) . my, femlnznefrzlls and danced .«>e3sr;»:..i..$‘=”’ ' ‘ l rc - M ;. the Passwn Dance of the ‘ ' 3. “ n .. .3” : _ " -1 Bongo Bangoes. ames Herndon was born him as James Herndon. He injury by his uncle as a child, Good Sams. He was widely in Scott County, KY and is more widely known by his he was left overnight there. regarded as the best orderly was the youngest of John nickname, "Sweet Evening Details are obscure, but in the hospital and usually and Kate Herndon's eight Breeze," or "Miss Sweets." apparently the boy was basi- trained new orderlies. children. According to Leigh He often wore make-up, cally left at the hospital. He Eventually moving to Prall Angelique,local entertainer, occassionally performed became friends with Miss Street, a part of a hundred drag queen, and friend of the or appeared on Main St. on Lake Johnson, the hospital year old African-American late Mr. Herndon, James was Saturdays in drag, and was superintendent, who gave neighborhood across from UK born in 1889, one year prior apparently quite effemi- him a room there. He even- behind Alfalfa's and Bourbon to Leigh's grandmother. nate. Long before there was tually began delivering the St. Cafe, he filled his home In his many decades living RuPaul, Lexington's Sweet hospital mail and playing with antiques and kept it in Lexington, KY he was Evening Breeze was tital- his ukulele for patients. spotlessly clean by all reports. widely regarded as the city's lating and gaining respect Through his late childhood Considering that Herndon most colorful character, and from locals. and teen years spent living lived in the era of segrega- there are numerous stories For most of his long life, and working in the hospital, tion, his job as an orderly (both true and legendary) Sweets worked at Good he finally learned the profes— gave him a relatively high about Herndon. In fact, few Samaritan Hospital. Taken sion of orderly, a career that income for African—American Lexingtonians really know to the hospital for an eye he followed for 40 years at Lexingtonians during the a LinQ early part of this century. play each other in basketball, tales over a legal episode in that if it was a crime to wear I Stories about Herndon Sweets was the cheerleader. Sweets' life: At some point makeup, then the woman 5; are numerous, Some of the Every year during the circa 1960, a teenaged Leigh should be charged equally 8 . authenticated include; Bluegrass Fair, Herndon Angelique, another local to any man. The judge then a Herndon was considered would hold a large banquet African-American drag threw the case out on the g in his day to be an excel- for his family coming in queen, was arrested for grounds that the ordinance CZ) lent cook. During World from Scott County. He also violating Lexington's ordi- unfairly punished one sex >—] War II he would meet troops regularly sent or would take nance against cross-dressing for behavior accepted for the II ) passing through Lexington gifts back to his family and except on Halloween. One other as well as on particular I at the train station and give old neighborhood there. story holds that Sweets holidays. them his homemade cakes. flitirreiwfi ’2 g gar—W 5‘” Leigh Angelique herself His fruitcake... the irony not * '75 II . 1‘ claims, however, that actu- being lost here... was consid- , q n a... . s a. } ii”: .591}; “ f (if .3 ally both Sweets and herself ered his crowning culinary I. " h f . “:53 A ‘ ’ werejailed. While injail they achievement. . , 1 : 1mg 4‘ i even performed a mini~drag His most notable drag y A; a . p 1, . show for the curious guards performance apparently was ‘ , it i . " ~ I Who even went so far as to tip at the Woodland Auditorium ~‘ ~ ’ :5" .3, ’ the "girls" for their act. Either Where he was lowered from , ._ 1,. .4. m 45 ; a jailor or other prominent the ceiling in abasket dressed - g . I "f 3' friend of Sweets spoke to the in "feminine frills" and j. . . . , V, ' ,1"FJ%% judge on their behalf. Sweets danced the "Passion Dance ' ' . *4; : t‘ .’ spoke up against jailing men of the Bongo Bangoes." é i , . I I 1i Aj- 3;. it; 5 for makeup and not women, Decades before Ziggy i W its .2? f and the case was dismissed. Stardust and David Bowie E ' V ’ , Eggfip' ' With this judgement, gave new emphasis to I a i W; ,. ; Lexington's ordinance gender-bending, Miss Sweets [if '5' ’ ‘ against public drag was would spend his Saturdays ' i,’ i .. . ., apparently overturned. visiting with friends and f i a , .. ' On the more risque side, acquaintances on Main ".115. . “ ' ' h‘ older gay men in town Street. Upon seeing RuPaul «a»: _ V” .. , i I remember that Sweets on TV, one elderly woman g: . I.” I . ' ‘ . could be seen on occassion in Harrodsburg told my I"; “ ‘ ’ frequenting the bathrooms friend Marc that Ru was an? . of the Phoenix Hotel and nothing new. She reminen- - ' ' -' Union Station for "tearoom sced fondly of trips with her ‘ 7 ‘ _ . . trade." His home on Prall fiance (later husband)long ,» , l . , Street according to these ago into Lexington to shop 7 l . . _ accounts also served as a on Saturdays. The couple a l ‘ ’ ’ - ‘ i > ‘ 1 meeting place for gay people always made a point to stop . and a sometimes sexual and visit with "Miss Sweets." outlet for a number of other— As Sweet Evening Breeze, For many years he was a bailed Leigh out of jail and wise closeted UK students. Herndon might appear in member of historic Pleasant subsequently defended her WhetherSweetseversettled a range of dress that might Green Baptist Church. Upon in court. When the case was down and found a partner is include a suit plus lipstick his death, he apparently left brought before the judge, difficult to say. Local legends and eye-liner. a considerable amount of Sweets supposedly pointed do not mention such a man, When the doctors and money to the church. to a woman in the court- but his obituary does hold nurses at Good Sams would There are also conflicting room and told that judge this tantalizing sentence: LinQ "He is survived by... a host of They relate that he was often LinQ celebrates LGBT History great—nieces and nephews; deeply hurt and enraged . close friends, INCLUDING when people would make Month by taklng a 100k baCk at one HUGH STERLING (emphasis fun of him- of Lexington’s most charismatic and added), andhis churchfamily." Ifone does research C 1‘ itiZ n I mes Hern- Perhaps this Hugh Sterling on Lexington’s 011 ageSOUS C e S’ a was Herndon's partner? gay and/0r don. Herndon’s story is not a new Throu h the De ression, . . . g P _ Afrzcan-Amerzcan one, 1n fact, Ieif Jones, the author, World War II, and desegre communities gation, Herndon cut a path . . ’ publlshed thls story over 5 years ago 1 d there is very little as a“ Open Y gay {mm rag information on but once you read It, you Will under- queen, and pos51bly even individual lives . . a transgendered person, before the 19505 stand why we had to reprlnt it here Legend holds. that Herndon There is, however, for LGBT History Month. was accepted m part because an entire slim file Herndon died on Friday, Royal Sovereign Imperial he was. a hermaphrodite in the Kentucky Dec. 16, 1983, at the Court of All Kentuckynamed whose W111 donated hls body Room on none Homestead Nursing Center. its highest honor the James to UK for sc1ent1fic study. other than the He was thought to be in his Herndon Award. Last year Nothing I have yet uncov— man that several 90$ andwas survivedbymany the Lexington Men's Chorus ered, however, substantiates writers have called loving friends and family. also named its small singing thls donation or supposed Lexington’s most For his achievement of being ensemble Sweet Evening hermaphroditism. Sweets memorable and himself against the odds, the Breeze in his honor as well. many friends described colorful character. him as sensitive and kind. it (it! .1: 1..-: ‘° i 11 ra‘ 4 l U it v. i- 3t} «,3 4 ,3 1:4, .1 1.4“; Y. \ ”a“? <7 F‘i fit it. . t -. - ‘4 .4 - . t\ ,1; . .. :L‘k‘lh‘ 1,; {/q ‘1', . 9‘ 3 . .. .' .1 f ‘ I ’ ¢ 4‘2" {F 6 >L'-V [)1 ‘5 K £“ “\. ' 'M‘} "A," .1 _ ‘~,- ) i‘ ‘ .1: I a“ ‘E‘r’ Arr, ilk. -‘-fi;/fi“ I w. all 7x" I V; 3'4 3:14,; ' ‘\":’(\ if; 3:21. H :" 1 i 7' ‘1' W25?" '5’ 14" .1 R I . A * / [iatolrer U0 ~ Mt) ' . ’ . , . \ , D0 mm} @ the 9D!) [I ‘ hie! Procwds to benefit :32 charities of 11;: ICK. GR 055 N G s ’ 1 7 $532.53.;ng exrng on LinQ Ch . t . NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY an is October 11, 2013. To celebrate, LinQ invited our I I: ' readers to share their Coming es Ian Out Stories with us. 1:? a ByChristyWade We present a small collection 5,; of their stories here. oming out as lesbian therapy, my sexual orienta- officially come out right after I can have a gay sexual orien— has been a long tion did not change. graduated seminary because I tation. Where I grew up, the process in my life. In Ironically, my life changed wanted to livealife ofintegrity. words 'Christian' and 'gay' fact,Ididn’t officiallytake this as I studied for a degree at a No longer was I willing to hate are not allowed to belong important step until October very conservative seminary. myself and force my partner together. 2012 at the age of 31. Sure, I had chosen this particular to liveinthe closet. As I assumed, some I had told close friends and school because of their unre- I decided that I seemed concerned about others who asked me, but I lenting stance on the sinful- my ‘lifestyle.’ Still, others _ l h'd h f f h ali wanted to help h d consgious yf 1 that par; 0 :eflss 110I d-d otmosexu Ly. other LGBTpeople ; ose- Inolt to respon . myi entity romt epub 1c.I er a , 1 n want to e know that they are urprising y, many more feltIhad to hidebecauselhad persuaded by the 'liberal gay embraced me and told me . . loved by God, and . . been engaged in Christian agenda Ihad been told domi— . that their love Wlll never . ' I would do this by ministry throughout my life, nated other seminaries. As I . . change for me, no matter speaking, teaching, . learned to read the languages . what. I cannot begin to From the age . and bloggzng. . . of Hebrew and Greek in my express just how much that of 8 until my _ , . , , , studies and began reading Before I began bloggmg, I meant and still means to mid—twenties, I . _ . . . . , the Bible m its original carefully crafted a message me. diligently begged . . . languages, my prev10us mter— to send to members of my God every night _ . . . . pretations of the 6 or 7 verses family and friends Via email , , to change my gay _ _ Since coming out, . addressmg homosexuality or Facebook. 1 was too feelings. . . I feel closer to my began to unravel. And 1 never scared to do this in person! . _ , family and friends I constantly read my intended for them to do this. H0h€St1Y> thlS whole because I don’ t bible, even carrying it in my I started to see things differ- 'coming out' scared me. _ have a wall up backpack to read when I ently. To make a long story Most of my family members _ . _ , around my heart. finished my work at school. short, it took studying at a and friends attend church Comin out has I would eventually move to conservative, evangelical and commit themselves to g . . . . . been one of the best Lexmgton, KY to enter into seminary to help me embrace the Christian falth- P1118, decisions I have an ex—gay ministry, hoping just who God created me to they know that I lUSt gr ad— ever made’ to become straight. Still, no be all along. And I’m finally uated seminary, and I knew ' matter how much I prayed, okay with this. that they would probably read my Bible, and attended I made up my mind to be shocked that a Christian I LinQ The Independence o H .. May 7, 2013. I got in front Of SOlltude of the theater full of people If and began to speak. No, I BY Jonathan George ‘1‘; can’t really call it speaking. ey, so since my used to have multiple proudly that audience would soon disap- It was an out of body experi— H time at this school, gay students, but that had been pear at the end of the school year ence. I was so nervous that I there have been no over 5 years ago. My school with my graduation. With the went on autopilot. I was but openly gay students much had since developed the air announcementhould become another witness to my body. less student leaders. With of fear—the fear to speak out. the first gay student leader that My public coming out, my that in mind, I wanted to say People had become afraid to any of that student body had short five sentences, brought that I am gay. (beat) be themselves, in the context ever seen.Icould imagine taking on thunderous applause, a I say this because I love this of coming out as gay. a huge step with the rest of my standing ovation, and enough school, and I don’t want to live A few students got together to school towards a future of toler- hugs to paralyze any hope of in fear here. I’m not afraid, and make a push to create tolerance ance and love. saying the words “thank you.” I don’t want any of you to be by bringing the Day of Silence As this crazy idea of a public In an instant, I proved to my afraid of anything either. My to my school, which was the first announcement became more entire school that students room may be messy, but my public mention of the LGBT fully formed, I began to worry; are strong enough to stand door is open to talk to anyone, community I had ever heard. what if this is wrong? I quickly out and that it is okay. I have please take advantage of that. It is after this initial change in scheduledanappointmentwith since talked to most of my After a week of planning and my school’s atmosphere when my school’s guidance coun- family, which is a different countless hours of worrying, I took a complete 180 degree selor. Under the strict rules of tale. Things have been a bit my lips and throat worked tuminhowl felt about my sexu— confidentiality, I uttered the rockier on the home front, together to form these words. ality. I had always thought that words “I’m gay.” For the first which is normal for a socially In front of my entire school. it was something I could hide time outside of my mind; an conservative family such as In May of 2013, I was a and repress, but one morning odd experience to say the least. mine, but I have already seen senior at a boarding school in I began to think of the prob- I got his opinion to make sure time helping them to realize North Carolina. Hard work lems that could arise if my sexu— that what I was doing was not the good in my actions. and determination propelled ality became an issue when I am out of line and would achieve And now that I’m here me through my last year; my 40 and with two kids. So with the ends I intended. He then reflecting on my actions, all personality and values landed coming out becoming a much talked with the headmaster, I think about is one of my me the position of Head of the more viable option, I continued keeping my anonymity, to get literary heroes, Ralph Waldo i Honor Council. I was a smart along that line of thought. I his approval as well. I had the Emerson: “The great man kid, was one of three main began thinking of ways to break thumbs up from two school is he who is in the midst of senior student leaders, and I through the barriers I had oflicials, so thiswasallREALLY the crowd keeps with perfect had a good reputation with created around my true persona happening. To help me deal sweetness the independ- most, if not all, students. The single best option that I with this, my churning ball ence of solitude.” Even if the My school was ‘accepting’ in found was an announcement to of anxiety, I also talked to two “crowd” had told me other- principle, but not in practice. my school. That next week And, close friends and my English wise, I would have kept “the The students and teachers were surprisingly, all of that thinking teacher. I will never forget, independence of solitude” demonstrated socially liberal, happened in the delirium of the when I told my English teacher, and still come out publicly. I thanks to survey’s by our early morning, so I guess mira— he exclaimed, “good job!” His didn’t need anyone’s permis- schools newspaper. Despite cles do happeninreal life. support still meantalot. I had a sion or validation. What I this, my school developed a Butseriouslyneveragainwould very small group of people reas- did was the right thing to do, quirky tradition of intoler- I have this kind of an audience, suring me and supporting me powered by love and care. ance. I once talked with my an audience in front of which until the day came thathas to Love doesn’t need validation advisor about how the school I could make an impact And stand in front of my school. and care has no restrictions. LinQ p: c, .— W 4 __M A Couple of I . .; i 4. o ‘ ‘cfil‘n . Coming Outs ’ s: . $4 ' _ ‘f , By Matt Sullivan , g ’1‘. _ - - The beckoning was almost a i." 7 ;_, , ‘ I ' ‘_ 4; ‘ whisper and it flowed down from "’3? 4}. “ - ' ,1 ‘ H the top of the stairs like a ribbon K ' w, \\ "i I I? . of sufiocating smoke. I knew :3; . , 1, _ _ 4 ‘ i‘ 53 instantly what this was about and ‘ '5; < g“ g; «:1 she was ignorantly going about ( ‘2 this the wrong way. You don’t ,fl , mg: . 5, force someone to say they’re gay. . _. 1,; -: . . “I thought extensively I croaked that I needed to with something to effect for fun nowadays. My non- I on how I’d come out tell him something impor- of, “Yeah, I know. I guessed committal answers were fine to my father. I was tant and instead of turning that a long time ago.” After with other people present, nervous, but I’d come out to his head, as I had planned,