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Serving the Centra/ Kentucky Jewish Community Since 1962

November 2000

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Federation Sponsored Jewish Family Services
paves the way for new program,Tikkun Lexington

by Lisa Miller and Fran Morris of Jewish Family Services

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Jewish Family Services, CKJF introduces Tikkun
Lexington, a new program that examines the pressing
needs of our local Jewish population and trains Jewish
volunteers in order to serve those needs. From Bikur
Cholim (caring for the sick), to mentoring projects, to
in-home visiting for isolated members of community,
Tikkun Lexington provides a stable and strategic
framework from which volunteerism can grow and
thrive.

Throughout the year, volunteers will be provided
ongoing training workshops and seminars serving to
strengthen skills for delicate one-on—one situations as
well as team—oriented projects. Volunteers can give one
hour of time to 350 hours a year in order to answer the
needs of both the Jewish, and general Lexington
community, while maintaining Judaic philosophy
revolving around active participation. Volunteers can
partake as frequently or infrequently as desired and
can choose volunteer opportunities accordingly.

The likkun Lexington Kick-Off Party will be held
on Tuesday November 28, at Temple Adath Israel,

with featured

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and experience of our scheduled speaker.

Appropriately named, the Tikkun program will

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coordinator of here that extends far ahead while providing direction
the celebrated and support every step of the way. We look forward to
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Initiative, launched in 1998. On the theme of Tikkun
Lexington. One Step AtA Time, Ms. Susskind and one
of her experienced volunteers will share the passion
and creativity that has driven her motivating program
so successfully thus far. As a communications and
program development specialist, Susskind was staff
coordinator of the 5-year project, The Jewish Commu-
nity Coalition on AIDS. Currently, she serves as the
coordinator of the Kidney Foundation of Greater
Cincinnati, and is the Media Consultant of the Jewish
Community Relations Council through which she
produces the ecumenical radio magazine, “Genesis.”
As a volunteer, Ms. Susskind has served on over 10
community boards, is a Wise Temple Sisterhood past-
president, and is a recipient of the Clara Greller Young
Leadership Award. We look forward to the wisdom

CKJF
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Lexington, KY 40502

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A new and exciting program for our Jewish
Community is now born. TIKKUN LEXING-
TON, sponsored by Jewish Family Services, is a
structured pool of volunteer opportunities. By
performing mitzvot through this structured
program you will be provided support, training,
and predictability. Choose from a range of
mitzvot opportunities from one-time tasks to
monthly and bi-monthly mitzvot.

Join our
TIKKUN LEXINGTON
KICKOFF PARTY

Tuesday, November 28 ° 7:00 pm.
Temple Adath Israel, 124 Ashland Avenue

Terry Susskind, creator of Cincinnati’s JFS
Volunteer Initiative, Bikkur Cholim will speak
about the excitement and success of her program
currently supporting over 100 volunteers and a
vast range of community needs.

Mitzvot opportunities will be presented and
chosen at this time.

Please RSVP to JFS or call for more information

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In This Issue:

Column Musings ......................................... 2
B’tay Avon .................................................. 3 Please let us know of births, graduations, news
CKJF CAC Upcoming Events .................... 3 from the “kinder,” 0" any other 300d news you
Winter Dinner Reservation Form ................ 3 would like to share With the community.
What is Jewish for ‘voice’ .......................... 4 MAZEL T 0V T O
Hank Greenburg ......................................... 5 '
Parenting workshops ................................... 5 Etta Pollan and Bruce Engel, on the birth 0f

. _ their great-grandson and great—nephew, Jonathan
Stop The Hate Vlgll .................................... 5 Marc Goldman. The pI'OUd parents are Michael &
What’s In A Name? .................................... 6 Dr. Ruth Goldman.
Leisure Club ............................................... 7 Saul & Audrey Rubin, on the birth of their
Ask JFS ...................................................... 7 great—grandson, Bradley Aaron Waller, on August
Hadassah’s Donor Telethon ........................ 7 31, 2000. The proud parents are Stacey &Bill
Rabbi’s Corner ........................................... 8 Waller.
Jews in Suriname ...................................... 10

REFUAH SHLEMAH (GET WELL WISHES):
Mark Lukens, Rachel Plavin, Phyllis Scher

Jews lobby Congress for Abused Women . 10

Rabbi Lou Feldstein ................................. 10

Anti—Jewish Violence ................................ 1 1

Arafat Underestimates Israeli Power ........ 11 CONDOLENCES TO:

Hebrew School Issue ................................ 12 Edie Frankel on the death of her sister Leah
AMOS ...................................................... 13 Rose Wer than, (’m October 11, 2000. ’
Worship Schedule ..................................... 13

Activities & Events ................................... 14 Harold & Kaye Frankel, on the death 0f Kaye‘s

uncle, Saul Goldberg on August 19, 2000, and on

the death of Kaye’s cousin, Phyllis Tucker, on

October 10, 2000.
CORRECTIONS... The family of Leslie Glass, who passed away
...for the October issue of Shalom October 3' 2000' .
’ . ~ , On page 2’ Mazel TovTo should have Lee Keow‘n‘ On the death of her grandmmheri'
read: Di Sobel and Gregory Smith on the Gladys Mme“
biith of their daughter on Sept. 16.
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Published ten times annually by the Central Kentucky Jewish Federation, Inc.
340 Romany Road, Lexington, KY 40502
(859) 268-0672 at Fax (859) 268-0775
November 2000, Volume VIII, Issue 3

The mission of the Federation is to promote and foster unity and cohesion in the Jewish community of
Central Kentucky; to improve the quality of Jewish life in the community by developing and maintaining
recreational, social, cultural, community service and leisure activities; and to provide ﬁnancial assistance

and moral support to the State of Israel, Jewish people in all countries and selected charities.

Marty Barr, President
Daniel Chejfec, Executive Director
Fran Morris, Jewish Family Services
Lisa Miller, Volunteer Coordinator
Holly Barnhill, Program Director
Lori Zimmerman, Administrative Assistant
Editor & Advertising Manager, Carrie McDanald

Editorial Board
Marcia Blacker, Chair
Michael Adelstein, Evelyn Dantzlc Geller, Judy Levine, Ruth Poley, Jonathan Satin
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Column Musings
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Marcia )filacker

The Yom Kippur Caper

. was six years old and living in the Wild West, and
what a place it was for a six-year-old whose
favorite movie star was Roy Rogers.

In 1941, my father was a civilian employee of the
United States Army Corps of Engineers. He was sent
to Cody, Wyoming to be the ofﬁce manager on the
construction of a Japanese internment camp being
built at Heart Mountain, a few miles outside of Cody.
Of course, at the age of six, I had no idea of the horror
of what was happening to US. citizens of Japanese
descent. To me, Cody was just a place of beautiful
scenery, fabulous sunsets, Yellowstone Park just 50
miles away, and best of all, a movie theatre right
across the street from the hotel in which we lived.

My parents were reluctant to tell anyone that we
were Jewish, not being sure how such news would be
received in a small, isolated Western town. When Yom
Kippur came around, my father and mother fasted by
telling the other residents with whom we’d been
friendly that they had a “touch of flu” and didn’t feel
like having dinner.

On Kol Nidre night, my father went in our room to
daven, and mother and I were on the front porch of the
hotel when my best friend, Patty, came to me and
invited me to join her and her grandparents at the new
Roy Rogers movie. I was aware that it was a Jewish
holiday and had some vague notion that I should
observe it by not going to a movie, but the idea was
irresistible. and Laslmd-mymomen Showoffaa'm
answer by telling; mi: in go ask my Dad I xx cm to the
hotel room and found him standing, with his tallis on,
and swaying slightly to the mystical words. I knew I
shouldn’t interrupt him, so I simply assumed his
answer would be “yes” and skipped merrily off to the
theatre. I failed to tell my mother I was going, and by
the time I bounced across the street, Patty and her
grandparents were already seated inside the theatre.
What to do now? I was already there; I‘d already
broken any number of rules, so I figured why not
break one more? I told the cashier that I wanted to go
inside to ﬁnd my father (not having a quarter for
admission, what else could the little criminal do?). I
found Patty and her grandparents and watched the
movie with great joy.

The great joy was short—lived when I returned to
the hotel, found my mother in tears, and my father
with thunder on his face. I don’t remember the punish—
ment; perhaps I’ve repressed it all these years, or
perhaps, there was no punishment, only relief that I
hadn’t been kidnapped or injured. Or, maybe my
father knew that the punishment 1 was going to exact
from myself would be worse than any he could come
up with. For years, every Yom Kippur. talk about guilt
and atonement! I think I fasted from the age of seven
on, vowed never to put my parents through such
anguish. and even lost my affection for Roy Rogers.
Alan Ladd soon replaced him anyway as I reached the
sophisticated age of eight. as

Share one ofyour “growing up Jewish” stories
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anyone who doesn’t love this dish. It’s easy to make, can be done several days ahead, and goes well with everything. And if you throw a few vegetables in
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or vegetables in it. Slice the meat, against the
grain (that is, you should not have long strings
of meat after it’sgsliced), while it’s still cold,
and put it back in the pot on top of the rice or
potatoes. It will heat through if you leave it for

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Editor, Shalom, CKJF, 340 Romany Road,
Lexington, KY 40502

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the gravy and heat it up.

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not to burn. Remove meat from pan and immediately
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that may have stuck. Add the chopped onions and the
bay leaves.

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CKJF Activities Abound

by Ruth Paley

our CKJF Community Activities Committee is hard at work
planning fun stuff for the new year. Our next big party is the

annual Winter Dirmer, a Chanukah party this year as well. It

will be on December 25th at Bella Notte. See the reservation form
above for details.
Sunday, January 28th, we will present a showing of “Kadosh,”
considered by some to be the ﬁnest Israeli ﬁlm ever made. The movie
is set in an ultra—orthodox community, the Mea Sharim district of
Jerusalem. The story presents the conﬂict between the ancient reli-
gious traditions and the modern world as seen from the perspective f0
two sisters. This will be at 3:00 pm. in the new UK library.
Sunday, April 29th, will be the big concert of music by Jewish
composers, to be performed by the Lexington Community Orches-
tra. This concert will be free and open to the public, at the Singletary
Center for the Arts.
Back by popular demand, Yom HaAtzmaut celebration on May
13th. again at the E. S. Good barn at UK. Ask anyOne who attended
this party last year; it was great!
Keep an eye out for further details about these activities and others

in the works; we’d like to see you there. it

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he Talmud says that he who can prevent

somebody to come to harm and does not

do it, is responsible for the damage. That
is why Judaism can be seen in many ways as a
‘call to action.’ Belief, while central to it, does
not deﬁne Judaism, Action does. We express our
Jewish identity through performing the
Mitzvoth. We might argue among ourselves as to
which mitzvoth are to be performed and when,
or which have become irrelevant in today’s
world, but we all still look at Judaism as an
expression of action. We are judged by what we
do and not by what we believe.

This issue has been over the years a difﬁcult
obstacle in the relationship with our friends from
other religious faiths, and the source of many
misunderstandings, but it remains at the center
of how we deﬁne ourselves. A Jew acts on his/
her principles, and he/she will argue adamantly
for them. That is who we are, whether we
choose to express ourselves within the Jewish

communal systemnrimhe community at large. 4 « .

Commitment in Social insticc iT/L‘rldlxdl]?
becomes real when we act upon it.

Yet historically, we have failed many times to
rise to the occasion and stand up for our prin-
ciple, while at other times we have been very
outspoken. How do we choose when to do what?
It is a personal choice, and when enough people
in the community make a specific choice, it gets
the community moving - that is who we are, we
act as a community.

From 1939 to 1945, we failed. Besides
isolated voices rising from the Jewish commu-
nity in America, the community as such was
ineffective to convince the Allies to bomb the
death factories in Auschwitz, in Treblinka, and
elsewhere. Since then, we have always felt as a
community a bitter taste about that experience.
We did not have the power or the political clout
to do much, yet still the failure stings and hurts
because we could not save our brothers in
Europe.

Over the 705 and 803, we took the torch for
Soviet Jewry under a unified scream of “Let My
People Go”—and we succeeded. This success and
the acceptance of so many refugees into the
United States served as a testimony to how far
we have come since World War II. Millions of
our fellow Jews left the former Soviet Union
before and after the fall of the Berlin wall. As
bitter as the failure during World War II was,
this success was sweet. It energized the Jewish
community in America and gave us a common
purpose to look over and beyond our differences

What is Jewish for ‘voice’?

By Daniel Chejfec
Executive Director, CKJF

and reservations. We were truly acting as a
community. Because we spoke up and acted,
our brothers and sisters were set free.

Many issues conspired to divide us since
then. The ‘Who is a Jew’ debate in Israel, the
opposing views about the Peace Process, the
challenge to the Jewish communal structures,
and the findings of the 1990 Jewish Population
Study. It feels more and more as if the Jewish
community in America is losing the common
ground.

Now it is almost 2001. Israel is today facing
the biggest danger since the 1948 war. It is
facing a war that is casting neighbor against
neighbor, Arab against Jew, from Metulah in
the north to Eilat in the south and from the
Jordan River to the Mediterranean. This is no
‘quick fix’ or easy solution. As I write these
lines. the Sharm-el-Sheikh summit is taking
place. Neither side expects any solution to come

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a stronger and more disciplined army. But how
will Israel prevail? Either by fighting to the last
man or by displacing large numbers of Palestin-
ians. Either way, the cost of the conflict is going
to be high.

What we can do is our choice. We have three
choices: a) Ignore the whole issue for we believe
it does not affect us. b) Wait and see what
happens and then we decide. c) Stand up to be
counted for Israel and mount an active pro-
Israel advocacy campaign.

I don’t believe many people in this commu-
nity would subscribe to the option of doing
nothing. The second and third options are
probably where the majority lies. I want to hear
from you. Call me, write to me. stop me after
services, let me know any way you wish - but
speak out. Our community needs to decide. it

Contact your
CKJF Office

(859) 268.0672

340 Romany Road
Lexington, KY 40502
email:ckjf@jewishlexington.org
Also, visit CKJF on the web at
www.JewishLexington. org

Kentucky Jewish Federation.

Hank Greenberg Hits a Home Run!

he Jewish community and friends turned up in full force for a
special screening of The Life and Times of Hank Greenberg. Alan
and Kathy Stein and the Lexington Legends generously under—
wrote this October 11th screening, with all proceeds benefiting the Central

The movie is a humorous and nostalgic documentary about an extraor-
dinary baseball player who transcended ethnic and religious prejudice to
become an American hero. Greenberg’s story is told through newsreels,
interviews, classic movie clips, and by the legend himself.

The viewers enjoyed a wonderful ﬁlm, a night of camaraderie, and the
opportunity to give something back to the community. Thank you to all
who attended and to Alan and Kathy Stein and the Lexington Legends! a:

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in failing physical or mental health. We are sad to see them
suffering or losing their powers, but at the same time it is possible
to see the person as simply a man or a woman who is aging. Until,
this happens to my own parents or those of my spouse, the aging
of another may not have much emotional impact on me.

It is impossible to view my parent as merely “a man” or “a
woman,” and no amount of reading about aging parents can fully
prepare me emotionally for my relationship with my own mother
or father who can’t hear my one liners anymore, who requires 2
hours of my time to travel with me to the hardware store, who
can’t call me because she can’t remember how to push the
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by Michael E. Adelstein

hat are you—a Jewish American, an
American Jew, or just a Jew?
Let’s look at the ﬁrst two and then

talk about the third.

Is there any difference between a J ewish-
American or an American Jew? Yes, according
to William Saﬁre, the former Nixon
speechwriter, who wears one hat as a conserva-
tive political columnisty weekdays for the New
York Times and another as a witty linguist on
Sundays for its magazine section.

He concluded that “when I am in a voting
booth, I can fairly be counted by demographers
to be Jewish-American, and when I am in a
synagogue, I can be identiﬁed as an American
Jew.”

In other words, if Jews are considered for
their ethnicity, then Saﬁre would call them
Jewish Americans. lfconsidered for their
religion, then American Jews.

Thus we talk about Polish Americans, Irish
Americans, and Italian Americans, sometimes
hyphenated (although hyphens are generally
disappearing). Although these citizens are
identiﬁed by their ethnic backgrounds, the
emphasis is on the noun American.

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Saﬁre indicates on whether we wish to empha-
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religious (American Jew). Yet I suspect that
most of us call ourselves American Jews, either
analogous to Israeli Jews, or to emphasize the
religious factor.

What is somewhat ironic about this term is
that we generally dislike the term “Jew.” One of
the ugliest expressions to our cars is the verbal
form of the word in such expressions as “Did
you jew him down?” This general dislike of the
word “Jew” probably stems from its use in
many anti-Semitic expressions. A reference to a
child as a “Jew kid” is offensive while a “Jewish
kid” is not.

Similarly, we would suspect someone saying
“a Jew doctor” instead of “a Jewish doctor” and
“a Jew merchant” instead of “a Jewish mer-
chant.”

The Russian Yevtushenko in his famous
poem “Babi Yar” provides another illustration:

There is no Jewixh blond in in} wins,
But I am hated with a scabby hatred
By all the anti-Semites’

like a Jew.

You can understand now why I wrote about
the irony in the term “American Jew.” But you
don’t have to listen to this olde retired English
professor. Decide for yourselves. What’ll you
have—Jewish American, American Jew, or
Jew? a:

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CKJF LEISURE CLUB UPDATE

By Ruth Moser

heard Leonid Dayen, a famous Russian writer and

poet. He spoke to us in English and Russian, and
read some of his lovely poetry. If you missed it. you
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InOotober we meet for lunch mBuckhom Restau-
rant on Nicholasville Road. A little bit of kvetching,
but otherwise everyone had a good time. I even brought
my brother Albeit. vs ho most ot‘you already know.

Okay. so what are we doing in November? You
guessed it — another “meet and eat". On November 16.
we are going to the Golden Dragon on Newton Pike for
a fabulous Chinese buffet. They even have sushi —
look for it over by the desserts. And, if you think their
sushi is good, you should try mine. I have a secret
recipe from Pohnpei.

That brings us to December and our annual
Chanukah party. The date is Thursday, Dec. 21 and it
will be at the Temple. Of course, everyone will remem-
ber the’delicious latkes that Nattie and I make each
year. and Annette’s fantastic desserts (some with sugar
and some with aspartame).

So, call the ofﬁce at 269-8244 to let us know that
you are coming. We need everybody there so we can
maintain our reputation as the best bunch of kvetchers
and kvellers in town. See you soon. ilk

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Ask Jewish Family Service (JFS)

sk JFS is a monthly advice column with questions from members of the community requiring

assistance with a wide range of issues. If you have a problem or concern that you would like

addressed in this Shalom column, please send your queries to: Ask JFS c/o Jewish Family Ser-
vices, 340 Romany Road, Lexington, KY 40502.

Dear JFS,

I am concerned about my father. A recent fall has put him in the hospital and I don’t want him going
home to live by himself once he recovers. He is in his eighties but is very independent. I have put off
thinking about assisted living for a long time, but I think now may be the time before a more serious
accident ocurs. Do you agree?

A Concerned Son

Dear Concerned Son,

This is a delicate matter and clearly you don’t want to insult your father with this process. A three-way
conference including your father and his doctor will determine the support, appropriateness, and timing of
this lifestyle change. If this is in fact necessary at this time, there are many types of living facilities to suit
your father’s level of independence. Concerning this transition, the ﬁrst thing your father should know is
that the appropriate retirement community will completely support, rather than obstruct, his functional
level of independence.

You should do the homework/legwork first. Tour three or four assisted living communities in order to
gain a sense of the options supportive of your father’s needs and interests. When you take your father on
viewing tours be sure to have appointments scheduled with each director so that your father’s questions
can be addresed immediately.

You will learn the terminology associated with the three basic levels of care, from independent, to
personal care, to skilled nursing: In a retirement community if you are living independently, you are
physically and emotionally functional, and may enjoy the option of congregated meals and activities. In a