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journe} that helped teach her to embrace her fears.

A Family Reun' on
Carol recalls the 2nd Annual Bluegrass Black Pride Awards
Dinner. and how much it meant to her. and looks forward with
hope for others during the holidays.

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Ranada reveals the secret to enjoying the hoidays. Buy less,
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Editor-in-Chief The Pride Community Services Organization seeks to educate,
Christopher R' Bauer enhance, and empower the community about sexual minority
Assistant Editor - Advertising
Tuesday G Meadows and gender expansive issues.
Copy Editor . ' .
Ann Malcolm PCSO Executive Committee and Board of Directors
Photography Christopher R. Bauer, President
Chrlstopher R. Bauer & Tuesday G Meadows Theodore Meacham, Vice-President
Cover Design
Sarah Brown Paul Brown, Secretary
Calendar Coordinator Jacob Boyd, Treasurer
Chad Hundley Roberto L. Abreu, At Large
Circulation ,
PCSO Board & Chad Hundley K‘ra GOIdadea At Large
Amy Hatter, At Large
LinQ is published monthly by and for the Pride Community Dena Lee, At Large
Services Organization members and community. The Pride Tuesday G Meadows, At Large
Community Services Organization envisions a community Todd Ryser—Oatman, At Large
that accepts and celebrates each individual.
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his month I’d like to do best customers and in a great mood to deal with them and bake cookies,

Ta little shout out for the when they finally stop long enough etc? Have we even considered
busiest person in the world at this to go eat (detect any sarcasm?). Santa’s reindeer and how hard they
time of year. No... I’m not talking No,the busiest person in the world have to work that night? I’m not
about the retailer who is constantly this time of year is, of course, Santa sure how Rudolph’s nose stays so
merchandising and stocking and Claus. Can you even imagine what bright but if there are batteries
navigating through the crowds to this man must go through year after involved, I sure hope Santa takes
help people find what they need, year? I mean... think of all the along extras. He wouldn’t want to
then only to have to calm them pressure he must be under. He has run out oflight on his journey from
when they are 19th in line with only to sort through the Christmas lists the North Pole to houses all over
two registers open but 15 registers of all the little boys and girls who the world.
in the store. No, I’m not talking have been good. Ofcourse, the way Keeping after the elves so that
about the security people in stores society has changed in the last two they make all of the toys that the
who are on constant alert because decades, his list is probably much precious little ones will want for
shoplifting increases during this smaller than it used to be. And can Christmas must be quite a daunting
time ofyear, which puts the security you even comprehend the weight task for Santa each year as well.
people on edge. No, I’m not talking he has to carry in that sleigh? Everyone knows that elves just
about those Moms and Dads who Although, now that gaming systems sit around on shelves all day until
have been crowding to the malls have become the rage, they weigh someone actually makes them do
and shops, fighting for that bargain considerably less than bicycles something. And why shouldn’tthey
and trying to avoid road rage in and swing sets. God forbid that work? Do they really think they
the parking lots and roadways. children of today actually have to deserve to be kept without doing
I’m not even talking about those go outside... much less get some their share?
waiters and waitresses who work exercise. No, thank God we can I won’t even go into how many
themselves into a frenzy trying to keep them all stationary inside the malls he has to travel to in order
feed all of the crazies who have house in front of the 55-inch TV for kids to sit on his lap and have
spent all day shopping and driving screen. That is so good for them their photo taken while they tell
and dragging around packages or and reduces the chance of meeting him what they want for Christmas.
children or relatives. We know neighbor kids that would want to My goodness, what agreat memory
that those people are always the come overto play. Who has thetime Continued 0n NextPage
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upon his lap? Thank goodness he and happy Christmas (or Hanukah, I,
is an upstanding individual with or Kwanza, or whatever itis that you
no perverted notions. After all, he celebrate... I want to be inclusive
does have Mrs. Claus there with here - I know how you’ll fuss at
him to take care of his every need. me ifI’m not).
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membership is always growing One of the most important things me. December 20 brings about
and always looking for the good anyone can do in their life is to “Very Fairy Christmas,” a night of
in the world and striving to make make a difference in the life of fundraising to benefit PCSO for
it a better place for all. With that a child. If anyone would like to Lexington Pride, with sexy Santa
being said, I would like to remind make a donation or would like any and Mrs. Claus. You don’t want to
all members of the Imperial Court more information about this event, miss this.
of Kentucky that memberships are please contact me on Facebook or Lexington, keep up the amazing
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Embracing My Fears
“It’s been a long day without out you, my friend, and I’ll tell you all about it when I see you again...Everything I went through you
were standing there by my side, and now you are going to be with me for the last ride.” See You Again, Wiz Khalifa
y article this month was originally “I’ve turned the comer and things seem to be able to live outwardly and truthfully. Even

Mfitled, “Traveling While Trans.” better.” If people believed my words, maybe after I transitioned, I was fearful of not
I was going write about my recent trip out they would leave me alone or maybe even having Linda because she protected me from
west, and how scary it is for transgender I would begin to believe it I kept this lie up cruel people. She had always been there to
people to travel. Instead, my trip was a throughout the month after Linda died. comfort me. It felt so hollow when someone
revelation about my reactions to fear and But lies that you tell yourself only last for called me brave, because Linda was my
grief. so long, and the Monday I packed for my bravery.

For the last 39 years, my wife, Linda, has two week trip, it hit me that I was going At the Georgia O’Keeffe museum in Santa
been my constant companion. In September, alone. Next, I started thinking about being Fe, Linda spoke to me. Some people have
she died of cancer. Before she died, she had alone forever, and I started thinking that said that maybe I missed her so much that I
talked about taking a trip west, mentioning suicide was the only way to find peace. That imagined it. Maybe so, but I know that I felt
New Mexico several times. When she was evening, I wrote a very long suicide note and heard her. After my encounter, I have
getting close to the end, she again mentioned on Facebook explaining that I could not been at peace... maybe for the first time in my
the New Mexico trip that we never got continue. But as I hesitated to submit, I felt life. I stopped being afiaid at that moment.
to take. After she died, I decided to take I would be disappointing my wife by not Somewonderifltransitionedtobehappier.
the journey west. After one failed attempt taking the trip she had wanted. I deleted the My answer is always “no, it was to be my
(stymied by a stomach bug), I rescheduled note. true self.” What that meant for me was that
for November. So west I went by myself. The first few even in a world that rejects me, I could at

My challenge was that profound grief and days were pretty uneventful except for least stop the battle that was going on inside
depression hadtaken hold of me even before the blizzard in Arizona I went through the of me. After this hip, I have truly found my
she died. I constantly thought of suicide. motions, saw the sights. When I got to Santa inner peace and am ready to embrace the
“Wouldn’t it be easier not to deal with all of Fe, New Mexico, things changed. fears that seemed so daunting for so long.
this? Really, who would miss me anyway?” Fear has always been a big part of my life. I hope you can embrace that which makes
I did not hide my sadness, and those close Fear made me hide my true self for most you fearfirl and find your own inner peace.
to me tried to help. A lot of well—meaning of my life. I knew that if my “secret” (being You may write me at Tmeadow5828@
people told me how much that I would be transgender) got out, the rejection would kill gmailcom or follow me on Twitter Tuesday
missed and that suicide was not the answer. me. I imagined losing my job, my family, Meadows @trishgigi. Now Tuesday is gone

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here is something magical Acts of hate that are the causes of kid from taking their own life. It
T about being with your family, death and devastation. Audre Lorde could keep a closeted genderqueer
your tribe, your people. It fills your once said, “There is no such thing peson from withdrawing into their
soul in ways you never knew you as a single-issue struggle because own world away from everyone.
needed. The 2nd Annual Bluegrass we do not live single-issue lives.” It could give a person questioning
Black Pride Awards Dinner did For those of us who live at the their identity the strengthto findthe
exactly that. John Bentley, Joan intersection of being a person of answers. Love is what we all crave.
Brannon, John Moses, Djuan Trent, color and LGBTQQIA, those words People who identify as LGBTQQIA
and yours truly were honored and ring so very true. On any given day are no different. We want the same
celebrated as trailblazers. Sharing we are battling to live our lives as love and affection from our families
a stage with people I have looked full and authentic people. I used to that we got when we were kids.
up to with childlike eyes was a think I couldn’t be gay and Black Or the love we know we should
feeling I will never ever forget. We at the same time. But I can and I have gotten. As we move into the
live in a time where our survival is am. I am only those things fully time of year when families come
at risk on countless fronts. While because of the family I have. My together, I want to say something
the accolades and celebration were family, both biological and chosen, to the families who have chosen to
magnificent, what stood out even has supported me since the moment disconnect themselves from their
more to me was family. So many Iwas honest with myselfand honest LGBTQQIA relatives. You can fill
families and friends came together with them about who I am. They that nagging void that you know
in revelry and pride. The entire make me want to be my best, andl is there, whether you admit it or
evening overflowed with love and am forever thankful for that. I am not. You can feel what we felt that
affirmation. Yes, homophobia and nothing without them. We are all Saturday night when we celebrated
transphobia and a myriad of other deserving of that kind of love and our lives together as a community
social evils are rampant in our care and that warms our souls and and as a family. You can fill that
communities. People are silenced heals our wounds. emptiness with the person who was
every single day and denied the So many trans and queer people meant to be there the entire time.
opportunity to live authentic long for love, support, and The holidays often soften people in I
lives. We are inundated daily with affirmation from their families. their hearts. My hope for you is that
messages that make us question Those three things are very different your heart is softened enough to let
our place in the world. Blatant than tolerance. They are very thejoy back in. Happy Holidays!
acts of racism, transphobia, and different than “love the sinner, hate I
homophobia are daily occurrences the sin.” They are the very things Follow me on Twitter @ctshim7l I
and intersect in unimaginable ways. that could keep a 15-year-old trans o
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uring the Christmas season we class or hot yoga session, give a more healthy smoothies and this gift will be
Dare all very excited to spend thoughtful gift card that encourages an awesome combo.
time with friends and family, but your friend to try something new! 4. Fitness Video games- For the
unfortunately mostofus dreadsearching 2. Activity Tracker— Not only person who wants to lose weight but I:
for the perfects gifts for everyone on do activity trackers allow people to loves playing on their gaming system, I
our lists. We are tempted by traditional monitor their own activities, but now a this makes workouts fun and convenient. I
options of gifting Christmas cookies, lot of these devices have the capability 5. Workout Outfits- Having that
bottles of wine, and other tasty treats, to challenge your friends! Treat yourself special gym outfit that makes you feel
but what do we get for that someone and your friend and use competition as great while working out is one of the
who is trying to lose afew extra pounds? your motivation. best gifls for the fashionista.
Here’salist of some great ideas forthat 3. Smoothie Maker— For those Starting a healthy lifestyle can be
special someone who is serious about looking for a healthy breakfast drink or difficult, but with these gifts you will
their health: a healthier replacement to a milkshake, be able to demonstrate that you support
1. Workout class gift cards— Instead a smoothie maker makes the perfect your friend’s goals by giving them the
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. . he holidays. It can giveagood day and warm again. I’m fortunate to have - 1 cup pecans
Jr Ta bad case of serious heartburn. a great family that embraces me and my - 4 tablespoons unsalted butter
L For me, ‘tis the season used to mean trafiEic wife and my LGBTQ friends. I can say - 3/4 cup honey, preferably local
on NiCholasville Road coupled with the I’ve never felt unwelcome in my family’s - 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
mania of spending too much money and home because of my sexual orientation - 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
time on thinking about and buying gifts that and I’m very grateful for that. I know - 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper
never changed someone’s opinion of me. not everyone is as fortunate and that just - 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
Yes, I used to be one of those consumate breaks my heart. My wife Karin andI open - 1/4 cup of really good bourbon
people-pleasers who didn’t mind trying to our doors each year for friends that do not - l crisp apple, peeled, cored, and in thin
buy the love and friendship I felt I needed have such accepting families as ours. It’s slices
from others. I’m sure I’m not the only one about giving back. We volunteer to serve — Preheat the oven to 375 degrees.
who spent way too much on gifts and lost at homeless shelters or we donate food - Place the potatoes on a baking sheet.
the meaning of the holidays somewhere and essentials like socks and blankets. Cookthe potatoes whole, DO NOT punch
amidst the hustle and bustle of gift wrap It’s about giving back. We seek out a holes in them. Bake until soft, about 45
and shopping bags. I used to dread this non—profit who could use some warm, minutes. Let cool completely.
season for many years, but not these days. home cooked food for needy families. - In a small saute pan over high heat,
I can say that I genuinely look forward to It’s about giving back. Karin and I love add the pecans and lightly toast. Add 4
the holidays today. As a chef, I cook all to shop for kids that we’ve never met and tablespoons of butter, reduce the heat to
the time, so basically from Thanksgiving tear up a bit knowing we can do that for medium, add the honey and spices, and
until Christmas, I have a month of some others. It’s about giving back. It’s about allow to simmer for 4 to 5 minutes. Add
really long hours of cooking for many being present more in a person’s life who the whiskey and continue to simmer for
l families who don’t have time to cook might need it more than you’ll ever know. 5 minutes more. Peel the potatoes and
l for themselves. But food brings people That is when the holidays changed for out into 1/2-inch slices. Butter the bottom
together, and I selfishly love being a part me. Iencourage everyone to give more of and sides of an 8 by 8-inch baking dish.
of that, so you’ll find me cooking away themselves and see what happens. Until Arrange the sweet potatoes, alternating
to some Christmas music and getting then, here’s a really great recipe that will with the apples. Pour the whiskey-pecan
everyone in the mood that I can. What win friends and influence people along the mixture over the top and place in the oven.
did I do to make the change? That’s easy. way. Happy Holidays! Bake for 30 minutes, basting the top with
The past several years, I started buying BOURBON-GLAZED SWEET the whiskey sauce once at 15 minutes.
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his series began in August, In doing so, the Grantor sets forth Trust, and a Trust will not protect
Tand readers are encouraged the Trusts goals and terms. The Trust property from creditors or >
to check out the past issues, which Trustee controls the property owned lawsuits against you. Rather, most
are available by scrolling down the by the Trust and carries out the people have three primary purposes '
LinQ Magazine tab on the Pride terms the Grantor has set, and the in preparing a Living Trust. First,
Community Services Organization’s beneficiary(ies) who benefit from they wish to avoid Probate Court.
new website at pcsoky.org. We’ve the Trust. Initially, most Trusts (Note however, that although the
looked at methods of non-probate are set up so that you (perhaps in probate process takes a couple of
property transfers, Wills and conjunction with your committed months, unlike elsewhere, e.g.,
Prenuptial Agreements, and partner) wear all three hats. California and Florida, it is not an
the Durable Power of Attorney Think of a Trust as a vat into expensive nightmare in Kentucky.
(DPOA). This month we’ll explore which the Grantor “pours” his or There are even online forms
another estate planning tool her assets. This must be done by available for do-it-yourselfers.)
that is especially useful in some formally titling all such financial Secondly, aLiving Trust provides
situations—the Living Trust. accounts and other property in the for the management of one’s
A Living Trust is simply a Trust name of the Trustee, who manages property in case of disability. Since
that you create while you are alive, the property and controls the vat most folks name themselves as the
as opposed to one that is created spigot onbehalfofthe beneficiaries, original Trustee, it is important to
under the terms of your Will (a in accordance with the terms and nameareliable successor Trustee to
Testamentary Trust). But the basics conditions set out in the Trust take over in the event of disability
of both types ofTrusts are the same. document. (or death).
I prefer Living Trusts, however, Whatever your Trustee does, he Thirdly, since your Living Trust
because they become effective or she has the highest legal duty to endures after your death, it can
immediately and don’t require the honor the terms ofthe Trust and act substitute for a Will in disposing of .
delay of going to Probate Court. in good faith. Recognize, however, your property. But a Trust can be
Like many legal instruments,aTrust that the SWAT team won’t swoop significantly more flexible than a
document necessarily contains in to prevent misconduct. That’s Will by providing for almost any
enough mumbo-jumbo to choke a why “trust” in your Trustee is so sort 0f“strings attached” you desire
horse, but the concept is simple. important. to the property to be distributed. For
A Trust is really an agreement or Except in some multi-millionaire example, it can direct the successor
arrangement among three parties. situations, there are no tax benefits Trustee to distribute funds only
The Grantor establishes the Trust. to holding one’s property in aLiving Continued On Next Page
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upon the beneficiaries meeting flexibility and utility of the Living planning, he can be reached through
certain terms—like going to Trust. While a simple Will can be the PCSO Pride Center.
college, reaching the age of thirty, a do-it-yourself project, only an This article is presented for
or buying a home. Alternatively, attorney will be able to properly informational purposes only and
a Trust can give the successor advise you on how to draft and use not for the purpose of providing
Trustee discretion in handling a this estate powerful estate planning legal advice. You should contact
wide variety of circumstances, tool. your attorney to obtain advice with
just as you would do in life— Mike is a general practice lawyer respect to any particular issue or
withholding distributions to a child in Lexington and author ofthe 2008 problem.
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By Blake Flaugher, MPH, CHES
orldAIDSDayisDecember The first HIV antibody test was rates being among gay and bisexual
W1. On the heels of Charlie developed in 1985, and it took a full men under 25. There is still a lot of
Sheen’s revelation that he is living blood draw and at least two anxious work to do if we want to get the rate
with HIV, it is the perfect time to weeks to get results. Today, you can to zero, but right now, we have all ‘
remind everyone how farwe’ve come learn your HIV status in 20 minutes the tools we need to get there.
in terms of HIV-related prevention just by swabbing your mouth and So please, talk to your friends
and treatment. Specifically, I want dropping it in a vial. While it takes about HIV. Have honest discussions
to take some time to compare 1985 3—6 months after a risky encounter with your sexual partner(s) about
with today. What a difference 30 for an antibody test to be accurate, playing safe and getting tested. Get
years makes! some testing technologies can now yourself tested. Talk to your doctor
For starters, consider that the detect an HIV infection in as little about PrEP and PEP. If you are
Centers for Disease Control (CDC) as two weeks with a single drop of already living with HIV, then know
officially noted in 1985 that AIDS blood. This is important because that you are worthy of dignity and
was caused by a newly-identified duringthefirstmonthafterbecoming respect, and that there are several
virus that would later be called HIV. infected, transmission can occur resources for you here in Kentucky.
We now know what HIV is, how it very easily. So, the sooner we can Just as it did in 1985, stopping the
is transmitted, and how to prevent detect HIV, the sooner people can spread of HIV still requires unity
it. There is still no cure for HIV, begin treatment, stay healthy, and and diligence. The time to act is —
but studies have consistently shown prevent the spread to others. and always has been—now.
that people who stay on their HIV Finally, 1985 was the first year For testing information, call
treatmentlivejust as long as people that HIV was confirmed to be a 859—225-3000 x30. Stop by AVOL
who are HIV-negative and are much global disease. There are currently at 225 Walton Avenue (Suite 110)
less likely to transmit the Virus. 35 million people living with to pick up condoms and other
There are now als